This approach emphasises the link between the mind and the body. It directly connects what you believe with what you can achieve.
The powerful message here is that by thinking in a positive manner we are more likely to get positive results. This may sound just like the Children’s Story “The Little Engine That Could” but if you look on the website of Cancer Research UK you will find references to how visualisation has been used to manage symptoms of cancer.
Essentially, in positive thinking you are drawing on your own mental resources in helping you to achieve goals and to be more in control of your moods and your behaviour and what you can achieve.
A positive mind anticipates happiness, health and success, and believes that in spite of obstacles or difficulties success is possible.It is certainly possible to change your perspective if you are willing to work at it. Here are some steps to follow:
Begin by believing that “happiness” is a choice; one that you make and one that you can have a lot more control over. Do not give away your personal happiness so easily. For example; two people get into the elevator in the morning- they both travelled to work the same way and it rained on both of them as they got to work. For one person it was a miserable start to her day for the other person it was just about getting to work and she was still happy about seeing her friends later. When they arrived at their desk one woman arrived already tinged by negativity and the other arrived with optimism; which of them do you think was easier to work with?
Some people give up their choice to be happy by the way they see the world; they have a view which is critical which comments of the difficulties and which reacts negatively to hassle and obstacles. People who are in depression find it really difficult to see anything positive in their day and this frame of mind makes their recovery all the more of an effort. Having something to look forward to is important for all of us.
You can begin to embrace positive thinking by monitoring how much positive you can see if you look. Catch yourself when you begin to criticise or when you hear others moaning about things in their life. Are you feeding your own negativity?
Notice happiness in your life and state it to yourself and to others. If you enjoy the sandwich tell yourself “this tastes good”. If you are having fun with friends don’t be afraid to say “hey I am having a good time”. Often people only comment on the negative “this food is bad”, “I’m not enjoying this” “I wish I could be somewhere else”. So how about trying to balance that with noticing the positive times when you are feeling happy. Imagine your comments were like photographs: photos often remind us of the happy moments in our lives can you imagine a collection of photos which were all about the times when you felt miserable or were having a bad time? That’s what we end up collecting when we only comment on the negative. It’s time to get a new album of positive messages to yourself.
Recognise the times when you do things well and are pleased with what you have achieved. This can be personal achievements, things that you have put effort into a feel pleased about. It may be a project you did, it may be how you look or it may be how you are with people. There are things that you do well and feel pleased with:- there are also things you don’t do well and you know the difference. Allow yourself to receive compliments about the things you do well. Do not push the compliments away, do not say things like “oh it was just what anyone else would do”- no! no! If someone compliments you then learn to be gracious and say thank you and accept the compliment. You have earned it and it will feed your own positive self-belief.
Finally, compliment others. Do not be afraid to say positive things to others this is another way to nourish your own positivity. Have you noticed that you like being served by some people in a shop? Then tell them; it can make their day. Have you felt that somebody did a good thing? Do not be afraid to tell them. Learn to thank people and be able to say what it was about what they did which caught your attention. Sharing positivity even just saying hello to people on the street where you live can feed your own positivity. Don’t be put off by the reactions of others don’t get infected by their negativity. Positive thinking means that you approach unpleasantness in a more positive and productive way.